Communication, everyone knows what it is about, but do anyone actually understands it? I believe that there is a difference between knowing and understanding. We all know what communication is, it is just interacting, we also know that for communication to take place, there must be a minimum of two people, but sometimes during communication, we forget that communication is two way.
We become self- absorbed, all we think about is what I want, what I need, what I feel is better for you. We then become so absorbed in thinking about the ‘me, I, ‘that we don’t even notice saying it at all. Yes, you can argue that I’ve been through this, I know this should be done. Yes, you can speak from experience, just because you’ve been through it, but why deny that person a chance to grow, a chance to experience it? You can stop them from making this mistake once, but what about the next time? Will you be with them all the time?
If you love someone, be there to advise them, to give them the support they need when they ask, not making things worse. We all wouldn’t like to see the person you love go through the pain or the setback you felt. You can be there to help her through it, support her. But please do not say ‘I told you so or I know how you feel’, Yes, you been through it but different people takes in things differently, how we take a setback is differ from people to people, so save yourself the trouble of ‘you are not me, how would you know how I feel’ replies.
The funny thing is, technology is supposed to help us get closer with people by means of social medias, but ironically social media is one of the reason why communication is becoming so dull. We start to assume and be skeptical about the things the person say, the pictures that are taken. We start to doubt the other party on the things they say. Before you start to be offensive on the things you say, remember that they were never yours. Yes they might be in a relationship with you, but that doesn’t mean they are your possession, that you can control their life. If you are unhappy with it, talk to them. I find the point of cold war pointless, it only makes matter worse. Problems aren’t going to just disappear overnight, maybe it will get worse during the talk but in the end it will become better. Give yourself time to be cool headed before talking, the things we say when we are angry are usually the things we will regret in time.
“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” – Scott Peck You cannot listen and do something else, in your mind stop thinking about ways to answer her, just keep quiet, keep your mind blank and just listen to what they have to say then take a few moments then give a reply.
Believe In Your Beliefs 